Most of this shame comes from sexually frustrated men who take out their inner sadness on women by shaming them.
Some men in Asia shame women about sex in the same way that a fat ugly girl will shame a beautiful girl for “dressing slutty,” when the reality is she’s jealous and sad that she’s not beautiful — a quick way to reduce the pain is by inventing a story in her head that she’s just a slut who dresses slutty.
Obviously the black guy is the only person who can truly know what it’s like to be a black guy right?
In Asia, there’s a lot of shame surrounding intimacy that is so damaging and dysfunctional Many Asian girls are programmed to suppress their interest in sex and intimacy, hide it or deny it.
If they display or admit at all that they want or even like sex or touch, they risk being seen as a “slut” — in Japan they’re called a “bitch” or in China/HK, a “public toilet.” Their sense of self is at risk, and their reputation is at risk if they show an interest in sex.
This, in my opinion, is the most challenging reality of approaching and dating Asian girls.
In the East, girls have extreme pressure to “appear” pure, clean, polite and innocent.
Even if one argues it’s “easier” for a white guy in some aspects, there are definitely many “great walls” that make it very “not easy” and therefore offset the alleged advantage.: Although it’s not always the case, anyone who’s approached or attempted to date Asian girls has been faced with language barrier issues.
Language is something all of us take fully for granted, and attempting to approach, date, or seduce a girl who speaks little or *no* english is the furthest thing imaginable from “easy”.
Take a ride on a train in Korea or Japan — pure silence.
In many parts of Asia, there’s a lot of anxiety surrounding talking to strangers, and because of this most never really develop the social muscles needed to meet new people. When attempting to approach or date Asian girls, often you will run into this.
Any self-aware man who was once really bad with women knows that shaming women for their sexuality is a way to deal with the frustration of not being a part of it.
Accepting the fact that you’re just a lonely confused guy is too hard, so it’s just easier to rationalize that the girl kissing her boyfriend in the street is just a slut.
Communicating with another person who does not speak your language or speaks it poorly is a challenging task that even guys who are very good with girls will struggle with.